Let me introduce
My Background
After 40 years of a career in mental health counseling, specializing in working with couples and relationships...
I Noticed Something...
The foundational models with which I was trained combined with evolving, modern researched information, when applied to the couples with whom I worked, started showing significantly more success than couples working with more main stream clinicians around me.
Couples who learned my unique set of relationship tools knew exactly what to do when problems arose. When conflict occurred they knew how to communicate about it and what to do about it, so that they didn't feel so helpless in the face of conflict, and no longer perceived conflict as threatening to the relationship. They also tended to be interdependent, (rather than co-dependent), in that they acted together on the same principles – in effect, using the same language together to quickly resolve and de-escalate conflict.
Thus, the process of resolution became a familiar thing.